Music Soothes The Beast

Music Soothes The Beast

Within music there are many different genres and sub-genres that appeal to different people, people from all different walks of life, there are those that are into hard rock, some that like classical and some that like pop music. There are probably those that like all genres. My preferred genres of music would most likely be contemporary country and pop; my husband on the other hand likes rock.

These genres do have a more melodic rhythm and when I’m feeling down it helps me as often it calms my anxious thoughts and helps me to think clearer. When even the positive and uplifting words of friends can be shrugged off, this genre of music speaks to my very soul. When I can’t find the words to express how I’m feeling certain songs express it for me.

However, when my temper gets the better of me and I need to release some anger I go for a drive with music by Pink blaring and that’s like a release valve and eventually my anger cools down. My favourite Christian artists would have to be Amy Grant and Twila Paris for when I need that softer touch. Amy Grant’s song “Don’t Try So Hard” is my favourite song at the moment as it is a reminder that God’s grace can’t be earned as it is freely given. There are also songs that I like to play when I’m missing my baby girl that we lost like Eric Clapton’s song “Tears In Heaven”, and it allows me to feel what I might otherwise keep pushed down.

I’m not a good singer but I love to sing along to songs that express how I feel but can’t get the words out myself, often I sing in the car or when I’m just around Hubby and the kids. When I was a kid I had another kid say to me “You know you can’t sing” which at the time was very hurtful and actually stopped me from singing at all for many years; but as I loved music too much in time I decided to not allow those careless words to stop me from doing something I love.

Music has always been like a security blanket for me. When I listen to music and sing along it opens me up more than anything else, I like to sit down and get lost in a good book but music is the one thing that helps keep negative thoughts at bay, or at least allows them to flow safely away without affecting my life.

Everyone Needs A Village

Everyone Needs A Village

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My husband has been in hospital for over a week now. He was first in the Emergency Department with uncontrollable seizures, then because they couldn’t get them under control he had to be sedated so was sent up to the Intensive Care Unit, he finally became conscious on the 4th day after being admitted. A couple days later he was transferred to the medical ward.

While all this has been going on I have 3 kids to take care of and TRY to keep the house reasonably tidy. Fortunately I have friends and family that have really stepped in to help; like providing dinner for the boys and I, being a listening ear or even watching my kids so I can be up at the hospital with Rob. rob-and-boys

One of the hardest things for me as been to actually ask for help – I feel sometimes like responsibility of the kids should rest solely on mine and hubby’s shoulders as their parents. Over this past week its like my hand has been forced to ask for help otherwise I don’t think I would have held it together at all

Honestly though it does take a village to raise kids, with everything that has happened over the last week, I feel for those parents who have to make it on their own; whether it be because they are single parents or their partner is away from home a lot.  Rob’s the type of person who doesn’t stress the big stuff, he tells me not to worry about organizing things – his view is that it will get done. For me though I feel like sometimes things will only get done if I do it – If you want things done right then do it yourself. Sometimes though I have to put that thinking aside and actually ask or accept help.

I feel so blessed to have the family and friends that I have; my church family has also been a huge blessing.

I honestly believe that if you know of someone that needs help and there is something you can do then do it, or if you make an offer to help follow through if they ask. Empty offers of help may make you feel good but don’t really help in the end.

Reach  your hand out to someone who needs it because you never know when you might need help someday.