Night-time Adventure

Night-time Adventure

It’s funny how when our children get worryingly sick, that’s when our eyes are opened to the extent of love we have for them, especially for the ones that constantly seem to push our limits.

Last night I ended up taking my 4 year old son Alex up to the hospital as his temp was a bit high, he was lethargic and had a loss of appetite. Alex is the only one of my kids I’ve never really worried about; even when at a week and a half old he had to go back into hospital as he was Jaundice. At that time I was more concerned about being away from my eldest boy who was 20 months old.Alex at WAM

Alex is normally a chatty, energetic boy and last night he was far from that, fortunately he doesn’t stay down for very long and this morning even though he still has a high temp he’s back to his chatty self. He’s still not very hungry but I’m just glad to have my chatty boy back. Thinking over last night’s “adventure” made me realize how much I love my youngest son, I knew I loved him but he’s the one the pushes my buttons the most, the one who can really test my patience, so never fully realised how much I love him.

I find it interesting looking back over the time when Alex was a baby I can see the signs of P.N.D but it never really clicked with me at the time – it was pretty mild. It took over a year or so to bond with him and he was a lot easier as a baby than Jason. Alex was “sleeping through the night” by about 5 weeks old. Even when he did wake he didn’t make a noise so I wouldn’t know he had woken up until I went and checked on him. Yet even though he was a easy baby I felt like it was a chore to care for him, now I feel a tad bit guilty about that, though it wasn’t an intentional feeling.

When my eldest boy Jason was a baby, I always seemed to worry about him – the slightest cold had me taking him up to the hospital and with my daughter Rylee I’m always a little bit more cautious

 

when it comes to her health. Jason has never really been sick other than the Jaundice as a baby, chicken pox and a mild case of bronchitis. Rylee has never been sick though I think because she’s so dainty I don’t want her getting sick as she doesn’t have the “padding” her brothers did when they were babies.

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I love all my kids equally but differently as they are different people, sometimes it can take a while to bond with your child; that is okay just keep pushing through, and if you need help it’s always out there through friends, family, church, and other groups. Parenting is not easy and we all need help sometimes, we shouldn’t hesitate to ask, especially when it comes to the physical and mental health of the parent or child.

Birthday Party blog

Birthday Party blog

 

I have found that in the past I have put more effort into my eldest son’s birthday parties, Also I seem to enjoy preparing  those parties more, for Jason’s 5th birthday party he ended up having 2 celebrations – the first a party with friends a few weeks beforehand and then on his actual birthday we had his paternal grandparents, his aunty and cousin come round and later on we watched Star Wars. All this was done as I was pregnant with his baby sister and she arrived a week before his actual birthday.

As it is my baby girl’s first birthday this year its going to be a major milestone and I will combine it with Jason’s 6th birthday, I didn’t want my youngest boy to feel left out so actually put in more effort this year

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What I was going to attempt

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My youngest son Alex was turning 4 and because hes a huge Pokemon fan I thought I would attempt a Pokeball cake.

 

 

When I finished decorating it I don’t think it was too bad, Jason even wanted to add to it as he felt that the Pokemon needed trainers.

Alex's cake
Finished Product

 

I felt like my house would be too small for the party so fortunately my Dad allowed me to have it at his place which is bigger. It was a rough beginning as my hubby did not have a good night due to health reasons, so was unable to make it to the party. Some of Alex’s friends turned up, some with their siblings which of course was totally cool especially since the kindy girl came along with her 3 sisters – one who is exactly Jason’s age. This meant that there were just as many girls as boys.

Alex really enjoyed himself and I think his friends did, some of his friends even got to help feed my Dad’s chickens.

The most difficult part was trying to  do things when my teething daughter wouldn’t go to sleep and was only settled when she was being held, so I had one cranky baby.

The party went on for about 2 hours though some had to leave earlier due to other parties to go they were attending. After I had cleaned up and got the kids in the car and home I was exhausted so I put my girl to bed and TRIED to sleep myself.

 

 

The Middle Child

The Middle Child

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Alex

Alex lost his place as baby of the family when our daughter came along 7 months ago; if that wasn’t difficult enough his Dad who he has a great bond with was in hospital for 2 weeks at the beginning of the year and though he is out of hospital he is still not quite and will be heading to Auckland Hospital next week for observations and tests; its a 6 or so hour drive from where we live and so visiting will be very difficult so won’t happen. Which in a way may be a good thing as Alex didn’t like seeing his Dad in the hospital – he saw him after the tubes were taken out.

Rob’s balance is still not great and sometimes finds it difficult to even carry a cup of coffee from the kitchen to the living room. This means that the rough-housing that normally goes on between those 2 has been put on hold.

Alex’s big brother Jason has been busy with school and is involved in activities outside of school as well so I think Alex has been feeling a bit left out especially when his baby sister takes up more of my time. I try to spend quality time with Alex when I can  but things are definitely different now.alex-age-3

Normally Alex is a friendly and helpful little boy but he has been having moments where he’s defiant and aggressive, maybe part of it is his age – after all he will be 4 in a few weeks I think a lot of it has to do more with all the changes he’s had to deal with.

Alex is the type of kid that will try anything he is determined and seems to have very little fear. I have found that I can’t waiver at all with him and compromise is not possible. If he’s given an inch he will take a mile. This type of attitude will be good when he’s a teenager as maybe he will be less likely to give in to peer pressure – right now though hes a bit of a trial, though hopefully it will get better as he learns more self-control.alex